It feels like a lot of attacks on weird men’s behaviour are actually just misogynistic underneath

that's actually a pretty fair point. Society tends to think of women as having less agency than men; that they're delicate flowers, or country bumpkins getting the wool pulled over their eyes by men.

No.

A lot of them enter these situations with their eyes wide open, and its our collective small minds that can't handle that truth, so we reinvent a different narrative.

Good catch, honestly.