Anyone who wants to get into anything even remotely BDSM-y should have mandatory reading of Sunstone first.

There's a character there who lost her hands because she wanted to impress her dom boyfriend and tied herself to the bed with self-tightening knots. The boyfriend - not aware of the fact - was home late. By that time she lost strength in her arms, the knots tightened and cut off blood-flow and her hands had to be amputated.

This shit is sexy and hot, but dangerous if performed by unaware/inexperienced people.

awful lot of pearl clutching on lemmy.

The government should be able to decide what to do in bed? Come on

I absolutely agree on the consent bit, but it already seems to be well and truly normalised IMO. Banning it in porn is madness though - those with healthy boundaries already understand porn isn't real life, and those who don't aren't going to suddenly learn about consent if we ban certain (arbitrary) acts. The correct measure, as usual, is to invest in proper sex education instead of prohibition.

Tell my last 2 girlfriends this. They don't care.