I think you're mistaking 4chan or some right-wing only social media site for Lemmy.
It makes no sense how you could have that experience here, a place that's filled with lgbtq+ people.

Damn! Not again! I did that this morning. Now I must come clean and do jazz hands at opportune moments.

No you're thinking of "alpha bros" on tik tok or Twitter. They legit believe wiping your ass after you shit is gay since you are technically touching a man's ass. No they won't use a bidet either.