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Any advice on how to break the "I can't do anything" loop? (lemmy.world)
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I've recently found myself in a loop of not being able to do anything productive, feeling bad because of it, and then not being to able to do anything productive because I feel awful about not being productive. Any advice on how I can stop that?

I need to get insured, so that I can get treatment and maybe some meds (almost certainly some meds), but I'm too depressed to go to the proper office and talk to a clerk and then I have to go to the doctor and book a visit and then I have to go to that visit and wait in line, and the very prospect of doing that makes me more depressed. So I'm feeling too depressed to get the motivation to get treatment for my depression.

Too much IRL talking to too many IRL people. I'm stressed just thinking about it. I feel bad for writing this very post, because I feel like I'm procrastinating and waiving responsibility. I even feel bad about using the word "depression" for what I am going through, even though I've been officially diagnosed for over a decade now.

Advice would be appreciated.

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[–] 1 point 2 weeks ago (1 child)

The distinction between thoughts and feelings is important. Feelings cannot be disagreed with. I think it would be more correct to say you don't THINK they prevent you. Thinking that you can't talk to people doesn't prevent you from talking to people. We do things all the time we didn't think we're doable. You keep saying you can't but there's no evidence for that. There's evidence that you haven't done what you needed to in the past but that doesn't mean you can't do it in the future. I have gone through what you're going through for most of my life. I still do. So yes, I feel you, but narratives are everything. It's not a fact that you will break down. That is a choice. Internal narratives can be chaotic but you can steer them.

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  • [–] [S] 1 point 2 weeks ago*

    I do agree with you. At least on principle.

    I might've been inprecise in my wording. I don't THINK I can't talk to people. I don't WANT to talk to people.

    spoilerI don't want peas, I don't like peas, I would rather starve than eat peas type of mentality.
    What I am doing right now can't really be considered "talking to people", since it's not talking (it's writing), and I can't even verify I am conversing with a human. And even so, that human will never meet me in real life. It's different.

    So it's not that I CAN'T do it, it's that I really, really, REALLY don't WANT to. On a level that it almost physically hurts to try. Now, I know that is not a logical stance, I am looking for a way to get out of it. If using facts and logic to get out of it doesn't seem to work, maybe I need something illogical. Could that work? I don't know. But I'm willing to try a lot, as long as it doesn't involve actually going outside.

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