On one of my very first posts here (previous account) someone called me a MILF. And I just wanted to say...
How fucking dare you? I'm TWENTY years old, that's supposed to be young 😭

I mean, I do have MILF genes (sorry mom) and my female cousin has called my mother a MILF on several occasions...which is just plain weird, but I think that bodes well for me, lol 😂
My mom is fucking gorgeous tho. She's goals...which is a good thing, since I'm literally her child, I have her genes :3

My body, my face, my biological age...it's getting up there. I feel ancient already 🥲

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[–] 5 points 3 weeks ago* (last edited 3 weeks ago) (2 children)

MILF is a moving target. As a teenager it could have meant adult. These days (my 30s) it just means age appropriate and has kids, especially with a mom bod, except when it doesn't because it can also mean age appropriate for my parents but I'm hitting on her anyways.

20 absolutely isn't a milf unless you have kids, and even then… I'm not going to call you a baby, I hated when people did that to me at your age, but girl, in my country you can't even drink, for us you don't feel like an adult socially until 21. I started hormones at 20 and am barely not considered an early transitioner. I still rarely meet transfems who started as young as I did irl.

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  • [–] [S] 2 points 3 weeks ago (1 child)

    Huh, thanks for clarifying. Surprise surprise, I do not have kids. No mom bod either, but there's an extremely slim chance that might change in the future (please 🙏)

    it can also mean age appropriate for my parents but I'm hitting on her anyways

    LOL, okay that makes more sense 😂

    in my country you can't even drink, for us you don't feel like an adult socially until 21

    Jeez...that age limit is 18 here and in many places in Europe. 21 is quite a culture shock.

    I started hormones at 20 and am barely not considered an early transitioner

    Same 😔
    But...idk. It's up and down. One day I'm convinced I started early enough, the next I'm crying cause it's all over for me, I'm too old, I'm late, I'm done. It sucks tbh, badly.

    Thanks for the kind response ❤️

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  • [–] 2 points 3 weeks ago

    Yeah America is weird about stuff like that.

    But yeah, being a middle transitioner is awkward because on one hand we got in pretty young and have it pretty great, but on the other hand we just barely missed much better odds, by only a few years. It's really easy to focus on the latter and miss the former.

    Transition is slow. It's easy to miss what's happening and changing because of how slow it's going. Add in insecurity, anxiety, and being hormonal af, and you get the sort of worries I see from you. It's normal and common. Give it time, accept that the changes are happening.

    Insteas focus on what you can do more for instead, stuff like voice training, developing a sense of style, facial hair removal, makeup if you're interested in it (I personally learned while recovering from bottom surgery though lol), etc. I really wish I'd focused more on voice training when I was too early to pass anyways. But also make a point to keep things unrelated to transition in your life, at some point you'll be done and it's good for you to not be picking those interests back up for the first time in several years.

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