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[–] 11 points 1 month ago (10 children)

I dont know who these people are honestly, but from glossing over the article i think it is being taken out of proportion? I would be very surprised if married people actually go through the whole song and dance people think of when hearing consent to sex. I would hope/imagine that they have a less formalized system amongst themselves.

Though i of course do not want to make light of rape, or the need for consent in general.

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  • [–] 7 points 1 month ago* (2 children)

    Consent is a very big deal in my marriage. There is a specially designed pad on my wife's night stand, and nothing happens until that consent is signed, and dated by both of us. We've opted to not require witnesses so things can be a little less formal and we can have a bit of spontaneity. She then holds the form in her hand while we're making love so she can crumple it to revoke consent any time she wishes. I make a point of not letting her reach orgasm very often lest she crumple the consent form in ecstasy and confusion arises. We both insist it's better this way.

    ...none of that is true, except the parts about consent being a big deal, and witnesses. Unless you count pets. They can watch, but not from on the bed.

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  • [–] 7 points 1 month ago (4 children)

    I guess it’s informal in my relationship but I also stop if they don’t seem into it. A relationship is communication, whether that’s spoken or nonverbal.

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  • [–] 2 points 1 month ago* (3 children)

    Yeah, i remember from my last one my GF could just tell from the way i hugged her if i just wanted to cuddle or something else, and either responded accordingly or made a disapproving sound. And thats all i need to know lol. But i am also not a rapist so...

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  • [–] 1 point 1 month ago

    I hate how these days you have to basically be like "I'm into you being into this. If you're not feeling it, I'm not going to be turned on."

    I'm not going to make a move if I'm not getting the right signals.

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