Yeah I know and agree. I said that she was an asshole because she didn't fight the knee-jerk reaction that I've seen many women demonstrate at the sight of a "weak" man.
You'd think that, after feminist discourse being mainstream for a decade plus now, men would feel safer about sharing their traumas. But here we are.
For the record, I call myself a feminist and don't think that she should've pretended anything. But in the same way men have expectations on women that we should know to question and overcome, so should women.