I'm AuDHD too. It can be difficult to say the least.

This is from my assessment training manual:

"The AuDHD profile is defined by competing neurological needs that can create significant internal conflict. Key contradictions include:

• The need for routine and predictability (autism) in conflict with the need for novelty and stimulation (ADHD).
• Social exhaustion and sensory overwhelm (autism) in conflict with loneliness and desire for connection.
• Perfectionism and high standards (autism) in conflict with procrastination, task initiation failure, and inconsistency (ADHD).
• Deep, sustained special interest focus (autism) interrupted by ADHD-driven distractibility and difficulty sustaining attention on non-preferred aspects of those same interests."