As a fellow autistic, I fully feel you.

If it helps, I treat it like dancing. The moves don't make logical sense, but if you deviate too far, people get upset.

Also, counterintuitively, being both unapologetic and positive gets remarkably good results. NTs instinctively follow the group mindset. We struggle. If we set the default, they will often sync to us, particularly if it's a positive vibe. Also, NTs are very good at spotting mismatches. If you almost got, but not quite, you trigger uncanny valley effects. If you don't try and hide (all) your weirdness, they are often a lot more accepting. They don't pick up "lying creepy" vibes, with no context. It doesn't work with everyone, but it's become my default interaction mode.