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What are some lesser known developmental milestones no one really ever talks about? (programming.dev)
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[–] [S] 2 points 4 months ago (2 children)

I guess that's kind of what I was trying to press with the example I was giving.

I don't need external validation, because I've never had it.. it's like you can live your whole life without adding spices to your food and you could just know what tastes good.

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  • [–] 1 point 4 months ago

    I really sometimes wish I had a bit more space to figure myself out and develop a strong identity like that. I was raised in a pretty strict but loving situation where I was constantly trying to gain my parents' approval.

    Maybe to prove I didn't need so much correction and lecturing all the time.

    Many of my friends developed better skills and aptitudes maybe because they didn't constantly feel the conflict of needing that approval. I wish I could've been single-mindedly obsessed with making art and games back then instead of ruminating on cognitive dissonance.

    ADHD didn't help: along with all the learning struggles, you get real sensitive to rejection and try to avoid it at all costs.

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