We didn't have rules back then

It gets better.

The Greek word that's eventually translated to English "virgin" means unwed. (I have no source at hand to support that.)

Let's employ Occam's razor.

Mary (lit. Beloved) is just some dirt poor farmers daughter who got knocked up and ran away to the next village with her boy friend. Gave birth in a barn.

Then 25 years later this dude shows up again, a carpenter by trade, and is a total hippie.

Then all his mates write down his adventures in letters to each other.

I hear this Jesus guy is a pretty big deal with the Republicans. He's probably on that list they won't release.

I'm kinda curious about your source. The infancy gospel of James puts her at 16, still creepy, and it also has fun weird shit like the priests having her take a magic abortion potion test to prove her purity and her vag burning the midwife's hand.

Mary wasn't the virgin, her mother was. She had to be pure that way to carry jebus. It's so nonsensical even the followers of the religion get their own shit wrong.