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"The rent you pay to exist in the world as a woman." (piefed.cdn.blahaj.zone)
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Found this post thanks to @kasdeya@cryptid.cafe who posted it three years ago on her old timeline. Somebody boosted it on mine today and I knew I had to post it here.

⚠️ IMPORTANT REMINDER:

THIS IS A WOMEN ONLY COMMUNITY & SPACE

See "Rule 1: Women only...

Trans women are women, and transphobic or gender critical talk isn’t allowed. Anyone under the trans umbrella (e.g. non-binary, bigender, agender) is free to decide whether a women’s community is a good fit for them."

Screenshot of a tumblr post with two replies below it. - TITLE: "Reminder: You are under no obligation to look pretty." - TEXT: "Not when you are laying around the house, not when you go to the grocery store, not when you sit in a classroom, not when you go to the gym. You are never obligated to get dressed up just so you are pretty for others. Pretty is not the rent you pay to exist in the world as a woman." - REPLY 1: "That last line. Wow." - REPLY 2: "I needed this this morning"
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[–] 16 points 4 months ago (2 children)

I'm a trans girl, and I really don't pass (except for my voice kinda). I can really only dress and wear makeup for my own enjoyment.

Even with bold eyeliner, I still get he/him'd. I'm honestly not sure if it's transphobia, acceptance of feminine men, or obliviousness.

Most days, I kinda just boymode (despite my nametag lol). I don't even know anymore. Fuck gender norms or whatever.

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  • [–] 6 points 4 months ago (1 child)

    Well, for what it's worth you don't owe anyone "femme-ness" or passing either. But I know that's hard to internalize when the world is so hard on trans people.

    (I also have not been able to accept myself and often put too much emphasis on appearance or passing 😥)

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