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[–] 8 points 4 months ago (2 children)

Blame is a mechanism specifically designed to absolve oneself of responsibility. "Hey, I just wanted to let everyone know this fucked up thing I do is because my mom didn't tie my shoelaces properly.". The people affected by your actions don't need to know why you do this fucked up thing, they just want you to stop doing it to them.

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  • [–] 9 points 4 months ago (1 child)

    It can be, and is often used that way, but it doesn't have to be.

    And, generally, knowing the root causes of problems helps in best figuring out how to fix them.

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  • [–] 5 points 4 months ago

    My therapist mentioned its 80% awareness, 20% adding effective skills. But it can take a long ass time to rewire the engrained habits with new neuropathways habitually remembering and applying effective skills

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