Its impossible to "ask women" they arent a monolith I would never get anywhere. I have my lived experience and joke with women every day. I have crossed the line enough to get a sense of where it is with the people I interact with. If you're trying to reign harmless jokes like these memes then you're fighting a hard fight. The line for whats acceptable online is very blurry.

Idk maybe people need to start making some more women focused memes to get a feel for where the line is on c/memes. Here is one i made off the dome.