I'm helping my sister and her kids first, they are far more at risk. After that I'm looking into Ireland, they have subsidies for tech workers that interest me.
Don't let the fear of a misdiagnosis paralyze you, you always have the right to a second and even third and fourth opinions. When it comes to mental health, if you feel unwell you ARE unwell and deserve appropriate support and access to healthcare
Maybe they're not sure what exactly is going on but the fact you feel this way is INDISPUTABLE proof that SOMETHING is going on. Don't let them weasel away.
I went undiagnosed for most of my life and it was pure hell. I mean it's still hell now but at least I have a subsidized therapist to talk to about it with.