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[–] 7 points 5 months ago* (10 children)

A test (I just made up) to see which is the incel comment: which one most-readily accepts a "m'lady?"

The fact that a woman of your caliber is on Hinge speaks poorly of the men in our generation, M'LADY. I'm sorry for them. Let me take you out and apologize in person.

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  • [–] 6 points 5 months ago (3 children)

    Four score and seven years ago, m'lady...

    To be, or not to be...m'lady

    Once upon a midnight dreary, m'lady...

    Seems legit...

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  • [–] 2 points 5 months ago (2 children)

    The last two seem at least plausible. Both huge nerds. And Lincoln probably wanted more of Joshua Speed than society allowed, so...kinda, maybe?

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    A long time ago, I saw a reddit comment that observed the truth that men rarely get compliments, but when they do it probably means a lot; and women frequently get compliments but they're usually fairly meaningless because often the comment originates with someone who wants something from them.

    I never really thought about it before then, but the part I've experienced is true - I am a man, am rarely complimented, and am very grateful when I am. As such, since then, at every opportunity, I've complimented strangers - male and female - especially on something that clearly took courage or effort, like a loud shirt or an elaborate hairdo.

    I try to do so in situations that make it clear I'm not seeking seeking anything in return, such as when the stranger and I are headed in opposite directions through a store vestibule. Hopefully that lends an air of authenticity to them. I've definitely gotten very rewarding responses more than once.

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  • [–] 1 point 5 months ago

    I meant only to challenge two things you said:

    Its not possible to genuinely compliment a stranger without putting in a lot of effort, which is creepy.

    I don't put much effort into complimenting people. I notice something that's outside the norm and observe it. If I don't like it I don't compliment it, but I don't think one needs to know a person to acknowledge something one likes. It can easily drift into "creepy" territory, I agree with you there, so I avoid certain topics - that's also why I try to only say things in passing. Most of them are probably obvious, but one that caught me off guard is that "boots" can sound like "boobs." Much as I'm a fan of those, I've learned to say "shoes" these days.

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    Compliments should be for your friends and family

    I strongly disagree. This is what inspired me to respond. Compliments should be for anyone you can respectfully flatter. There are compliments that should only be for your friends or family for sure. I try to regularly remind my wife of the things I love about her, but I wouldn't say those things to a stranger. It does come down to a matter of subjective judgment, though.

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  • [–] 2 points 5 months ago* (3 children)

    Tryong to think of a British equivalent of 'm'lady' because that phraee is unheard of here

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