The Confederates in America got off easy, and look what their descendants have become: MAGATs. What that tells me, is that the confederates were only sorry for losing, not that they processed trauma and developed empathy.
It would be good if your path works. Unfortunately, I cannot find the faith to believe in your position.
The concentration camps of CECOT and Alligator Auschwitz shouldn't exist. Noem Kristi making light of 65 million latino lives as alligator feed, it doesn't inspire confidence in the humanity of whom I once considered to be American. I will hope you are right, but I cannot wager on it.