Most noteworthy for me is the fact that more Americans think that porn (52%) and homosexuality (39%) are wrong than spanking children (23%) and being ultra wealthy (18%).

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https://www.pewresearch.org/religion/2026/03/19/what-do-americans-consider-immoral/

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[–] 101 points 6 months ago (18 children)

75% of Americans think hitting children is chill???

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  • [–] 40 points 6 months ago

    A ton of cultures do, unfortunately. That said, it's also just bad parenting because (1) kids model behavior, so they will "punish" other kids physically and (2) punishment is one of the least effective forms of power, often producing public compliance but not private acceptance.

    Just an fyi in case you need that in you back pocket when someone tries to argue in favor of hitting kids.

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  • [–] 6 points 6 months ago

    I was visiting the head office of a California-based company that I worked for, and my colleagues (mostly left-leaning) were moaning about a proposal to make it illegal to hit children. After 15 minutes I couldn't keep my mouth shut and said, "I think a society should protect those least able to protect themselves." There was a lot of backpedaling, but also a few people explaining how it was totally necessary that they hit their children for reasons.

    I didn't have children at the time, but my step-daughter (now 20) and son (now 17) were never punished with violence, so it is possible for sure.

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  • [–] -4 points 6 months ago (1 child)

    I can sort of understand the logic, even if I disagree with it:

    If a child does something that could potentially have lethal consequences, a verbal warning might not be enough for them to understand the severity of what they did.

    That is, of course, the only reasonable situation I can think of in which spanking is acceptable.

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  • [–] 12 points 6 months ago

    Verbal warnings are not less efficient than violent punishment. It's the contrary. If the child understands why they should not do something, they respects the rule more than if they just fears the punishment. And children understand a lot of things, if explained clearly.

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  • [+] -15 points 6 months ago (11 children)

    I've never spanked my children but if you've never thought that spanking a child might be a good idea then you don't have kids. Those little shits don't understand empathy or anything else that you're appealing to when you say violence is never the answer. Being desperate to find a solution to their behavioral problems is totally understandable.

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  • [–] 28 points 6 months ago (7 children)

    I have children and I'd lie if I said that occasionally they make me angry, and sometimes very angry. But I'm the adult, they're not, hitting them will teach them absolutely nothing. You won't teach them empathy showing that you have none for them when you're angry.

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  • [–] 1 point 3 months ago (1 child)

    You won't teach them empathy showing that you have none for them when you're angry.

    Worse than that. My parents conditioned me to hurt myself when I make a mistake. They also instilled a permanent sense of guilt. So... I hurt myself a lot. I am getting therapy. I do not see much of a future for myself, my life has never been worth living. Everyone underestimates how bad it is.

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  • [–] 0 points 6 months ago (4 children)

    You've successfully described why I don't spank them and articulated that you understand the impulse so... Thanks for agreeing with me in the weirdest way possible I guess

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  • [–] 11 points 6 months ago (1 child)

    If you recognise the urge and haven't followed through, I assume you wouldn't call it "morally acceptable", but it really sounded like you were agreeing with that position originally.

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  • [–] 3 points 6 months ago

    I think it's understandable that people feel that spanking is fine and it isn't surprising to me at all. I don't feel the same but it's not a shock to see that like the original comment I replied to

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  • [–] 7 points 6 months ago

    If that’s what you meant to say, you’re extremely bad at expressing it. After all, you wrote this:

    ... if you've never thought that spanking a child might be a good idea then you don't have kids. Those little shits don't understand empathy or anything else that you're appealing to when you say violence is never the answer.

    That’s exactly the opposite of the comment you were replying to. You’re not saying that parents sometimes get angry, but that they consider violence to be a solution. That’s not the same thing!

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  • [–] 5 points 6 months ago*

    You mean children can make you mad? Yes, of course. But never ever ever have I thought this, and I would treat anyone with suspicion who does (even if they don't act on it). Lousy parents. Poor children!

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  • [–] 4 points 6 months ago* (last edited 6 months ago)

    For the safety of your children, please fucking educate yourself away from this draconic perspective.

    Being desperate is no excuse to abuse children.

    Edit: who is the dumbass that downvoted me for saying not to abuse children? Fix yourself.

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