Audience is an important piece to this discussion.

If the assumption is that therapy is an option, then the audience for @ScoffingLizard's comment is very narrow - literate, health-conscious, a person of some means. It's good advice within that narrow audience.

For the rest of the world, though, it's abysmal advice. "Codependency" isn't really an accurate description of relationship dynamics in oppressive societies like Saudi Arabia or the harsh realities in the slums of Bangladesh.

This applies to men too. Johnny Depp is a good example. He would have been what psychotherapists call codependent in that relationship. I've always hated the term. There is a book called Codependency Recovery Plan. It's about recognizing when boundaries are being breached and so forth.

Agreed that this doesn't apply in all situations, especially with women. It asked for an opinion though. I was in a situation and had to accept accountability for my own actions to prevent it from happening again. Statistics show that if you don't resolve the issue of responding to red flags after being in a "codependent" relationship, you're more likely to end up in another. Worked for me but maybe not for all environments.

Absolutely not. It's the commonly used term to describe the relationship between the abuser and abused in psychotherapy. It's always bothered me too. The term in that context is misleading IMHO. It's the one they use though. Definite ly not good for systemic oppression.