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Little secret you weren't taught: Parenting as a concept basically didn't exist before the 1970s. The overwhelming job that we call "parenting" used to be a community effort. (lemmy.today)
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[–] [S] -1 points 7 months ago (4 children)

Yes, the store thing was just an example. The point is that before the 1970-80s basically ALL kids were "free-range". In the 80s a PSA would come on tv that asked the parents if they knew where their kids were, and often than answer was 'no'. (That's literally the moment when parents started being shamed for not being helicopter parents.)

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  • [–] 3 points 7 months ago (3 children)

    If you're going to draw that line, draw it in the 20teens when parents started to get in legal trouble for their kids being unaccompanied.

    But again, even just the "free range" nature is a very very small aspect of parenting.

    Like, to compare to today's kids, being let lose on a small town as a preteen is nothing compared to unsupervised Internet access.

    In a lot of respects, kids have a shit ton more freedom/privacy than pre-internet kids.

    Hell, I remember having to take jr high dating calls from the kitchen phone in front of my whole family.

    You're thinking what was important to you as a kid, is important to kids today.

    Let them pick between a cell phone and closed bedroom door or a park with their friends but no phones...

    You might be surprised, most people won't.

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  • [–] [S] 0 points 7 months ago (2 children)

    We are probably going to disagree on cellphone access being better for the kids.

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  • [–] 2 points 7 months ago

    No we agree, you just don't understand.

    Unrestricted cell phone use is worse, so they have more freedom and are taking more risk than your grandparents.

    That's why they wouldn't trade in house privacy with a phone for a public environment with peers but no phones.

    It's not "good" that they have that freedom, but it's undeniably freedoom, and more than any prior generation has had

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