Getting loads of matches isn't necessarily a boon. I've had quite a few times where it turns out that a person I've matched with actually doesn't find me attractive at all, but they were just liking profiles en masse to maximise their chance of getting likes.

Although, I prefer the people who are honest about the fact they consider me ugly than the ones who consider me unattractive but go on a date with me anyway, because I'm better than nothing. I once even ended up finding out that a dude was 0% attracted to me after we had been on a few dates and I had ended up at his place; he was unable to maintain an erection, and this led to him confessing that he wasn't physically into me at all, but that I was the best option available.

I'm far from conventionally attractive, but I also know that I'm not the repugnant ogre that these instances made me feel like. It's exhausting to do online dating because even the excessive number of likes just ends up being a source of stress: "is this person actually into me, or am I functionally a fleshlight to them?"

It's especially frustrating because dudes who are like this are also making it worse for other men on the app who actually want to meet someone. It puts women more on guard, and makes us feel overwhelmed, which makes it less likely that we'll have the emotional or mental energy spare to message back someone who'll end up being genuine