disclaimed explicitly that I don't believe that speakers who use the phrase "toxic masculinity" believe that masculinity per se is toxic

And did I accuse you of doing so?

while I was writing, somebody else left a comment that does indeed interpret it that way.

Yes, lemmy has a pretty established history of harboring a lot of misogynistic users which do not reflect the thoughts of everyday normal people.

I don't think we should be moderating our own behavior to satisfy people acting in bad faith or to the temper of bigots.