A tumblr post:  @unpretty says: did cinderella ever talk to her man about his faceblindness  @bisexuhowl reblogs with: #I met the perfect woman but it was a special occasion # so now wherever she is her makeup and hair are probably different'#this is my nightmare'  rip prince charming, who had to let the whole kingdom make jokes about his foot fetish for the rest of his life because every blonde with an updo looks basically the same as far as he can tell  they call him prince charming because he's always really polite to strangers to cover for the fact that he doesn't know if he's supposed to recognize them from somewhere and when you're a prince that shit starts wars
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[–] 24 points 8 months ago* (3 children)

I'm faceblind.

The way we identify people is simply by triangulating between their voice, their gait, their clothing, their habitual-things, their assoicates/pets/whomever, their locale, their immediate-context, their habitual-actions, etc.

The single most-terrifying social-situation I ever experienced, was meeting a friend in a context that was in a different locale, so I had no idea who this person was, whom I knew that I knew. They knew me, & I simply had no idea who they were, from where, or anything.

Had I met them in the right locale, then I'd have known who they were.

Force-rewiring one's brain is possible, but takes damn years of working on it..

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( yes, that's my actual-face, above ; )

PS: yes, it is possible to identify some people by their spirit, which isn't material, so that gets added to the list above, too!

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  • [–] 8 points 8 months ago

    Also face blind - I use voice as primary clue, not just pitch but intonation and vocalization patterns. I’m a big language nerd and a natural mimic, so vocal qualities stick out nicely for me and are often the only clue I need. After that I keep a list, basically, of feature descriptions that “are” a person, because oh joy, I also am aphantasic and can’t just pull up some reference image, even if individual features (possibly somewhat related in my case)

    I get a LOT of false positive hits on sight alone, but with vocal cues I’m rarely mistaken.

    Going missing in crowds because I don’t remember/know what the person is supposed to be wearing so I can’t recognize them on sight is the worst, and I’m short so I only see a few options at a time in a sea of people. It’s super un-fun. Fortunately by now everyone I know is fully aware that I don’t actually recognize them most of the time, and so they go looking for me.

    The worst for me is when I see someone who flags all the descriptor traits for a person I haven’t seen in a while, and I don’t know if I actually know them or just have that feeling, so I feel compelled to talk to them to sort out why they feel familiar. It happens kinda a lot, especially with women who resemble my late mother, which is a uniquely uncomfortable feeling, so I don’t actually talk to those people knowing I’m probably wrong, but man that compulsion..

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  • [–] 6 points 8 months ago (1 child)

    TIL I'm helping out by never changing my wardrobe.

    Sidenote: I'm not face blind (I struggle with names instead), but I also sometimes struggle with recognizing people I only met once if I see them in a new context. Possibly because my brain doesn't fully commit people to memory unless I meet them at least twice. This is a problem, because people recognize me after meeting me once, and it makes for awkward second interactions.

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  • [–] 1 point 8 months ago

    I actually used to learn names by associating the face with the faces of other people I knew with the same name. In the area I lived at the time, it wasn't uncommon to know multiple people with the same given name, so this helped quite often. Now I live in an area where there is very little overlap, and my brain seems to have fully abandoned that approach, even when I meet someone sharing a name with someone I know.

    Thankfully, hearing someone's given name often jolts my memory and I suddenly remember the full name. That's at least somewhat redeeming after the initial awkwardness.

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