I've often found in my life that the unavoidable things drain my executive function enough that I'm not left with any for the important but technically ignorable. My solution was ultimately ADHD meds, Adderall. It gives me the executive function I need to do mandatory things, get work done, clean something in my apt, and still have the energy to stay out of bed after I've done all that most days (without it, sometimes the thought alone of knowing I need to do xyz but don't have the energy/function for it is enough to send me back to bed and asleep).

It's not perfect and sometimes an especially bad mental day can't be overcome with meds but the daily average has been life changing.