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What do you think when you look at your body? (piefed.blahaj.zone)
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[–] [S] 12 points 8 months ago (3 children)

I know I shouldn't say this cos y'know, female empowerment, body positive etc...but I don't think good things. I've got middle aged spread starting and I can't shake it without making massive diet and exercise changes. i used to have great boobs but they really aren't nice now. I'm not in bad shape but I truly hate my stomach and boobs.

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  • [–] 5 points 8 months ago* (last edited 8 months ago) (2 children)

    I, too, hate my stomach and boobs 😰

    In terms of body positivity, I don't like the way the advocacy for something like body positivity makes us feel as individuals guilty for our feelings - it's like we have to deal with feeling bad about our bodies in ways we were socialized to experience, but then on top of that we are meant to feel guilty for having been socialized that way?

    I dunno, I think we should shed the guilt and just recognize it's complicated, but that feeling bad about your body isn't the same as perpetuating body norms on others. I think we should at least offer ourselves that respite.

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  • [–] 4 points 8 months ago (1 child)

    I think it's ok to look at things on your body and recognize that they're not the beauty ideal. I don't think body positivity is about finding every body beautiful because frankly they're not. I think it's more about acknowledging that, unless you're a model or in show biz, being pretty isn't your job. You do not owe beauty to anyone.

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  • [–] 3 points 8 months ago

    I need to engage more with body positivity literature, I admit I just don't really know even the basic claims being made, but I was just in a session where a commentator in a session about ozempic drugs admitted she simultaneously feels shame for her (overweight) body, but also feels shame for wanting to diet and become thin, given all the critique of thinness (in the context of white feminism, colonial studies, etc.) - it's not just about recognizing your body falls short of an ideal, but additionally was tied up in the shame from awareness that your preference to be thin is due to socialization that is ultimately racist, misogynistic, etc.

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