You have to be deliberate about where you live. If you don't want to be car dependent, you have to move somewhere that isn't car dependent or you're gonna have a Bad Time™.

I grew up in a car-dependent suburban shithole called Langley, and moved to Vancouver at the earliest opportunity where I could commute via transit, scooter, or bike. Every time I moved after that (7 different cities so far) it's been to places where I can safely walk, cycle, and/or take transit because not being car-dependent was a high priority for me.

I should also point out that this decision, while resulting in higher rent & mortgages than if I'd chosen suburban life, has meant I've not spent the roughly $10k annually to maintain a car, which meant that I could afford a to buy a good-sized home in a bike-friendly city. We expect to pay off the mortgage this year.

Car-free really is what it says on the tin: freedom.