Here's a quick 5 minute VICE documentary on 1 town's approach, they've been doing this for 15 years and it has not devolved into your fears.
If you want to know more, here's a bit more reading about that town and how women are participating in the process.
And how they're defending against much larger actors trying to destroy their way of life:
https://itsgoingdown.org/armed-attack-against-the-autonomous-purepecha-community-of-cheran-keri/
From there you can 'do your own research' because I highly doubt you'll even look at those 3 basic sources without trying to come up with a reason to discredit it all in favour of the status quo.