You might want to check your sources. Most people associate it with 4chan and the like but the term was coined in the 90s by a woman who started a support group for people who had trouble connecting with others, herself included.

But what happened, predictably, is that people who were helped by the group left. No reason to go to incel meetings if you've found love. The people who never found a part er grew bitter and poisoned the whole thing.

This is like 1/3 the reason I think we should legalize sex work. There's some percentage of people who might have sex finally, and realize "Yes that's fun but maybe I shouldn't shape my whole life around it" and go on to form hobbies and interests that will make them more successful in life and in love.