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I genuinely care about my friends but forgot stay in touch (lemmy.world)
submitted 10 months ago by to c/adhd@lemmy.world
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I genuinely care about my friends and family, but I forget to stay in touch and it makes me feel awful.

I’ll go weeks or months without reaching out, not because I don’t care, but because once someone is out of sight they’re out of mind. Then I remember randomly, feel guilty, and put it off again.

I’ve tried reminders, calendars, notes but nothing really sticks long-term. It’s especially frustrating because I do want to maintain these relationships, it's like my brain just doesn’t cooperate.

Recently I've found a mobile app that helps (after rummaging through the useless, overwhelming ones) but I’m curious does anyone else struggle with this? Have you found anything that actually helps, or is this just one of those ADHD things you learn to live with?

Edit: For everyone asking the app is called Kinly Connect

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[–] 6 points 10 months ago

I get it. I used to beat myself up for it. Still do sometimes. But I have to remind myself that if they aren't reaching out either, they may feel the same. We both care about each other and if one or the other of us called we'd help in a heart beat or have a lengthy enjoyable conversation. But we also have lives to go about. And if they aren't involved in the day to day it takes concerted effort to reach out.

When I feel really bad is when I don't send a Xmas card but get one from them. Lol

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