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I genuinely care about my friends but forgot stay in touch (lemmy.world)
submitted 10 months ago by to c/adhd@lemmy.world
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I genuinely care about my friends and family, but I forget to stay in touch and it makes me feel awful.

I’ll go weeks or months without reaching out, not because I don’t care, but because once someone is out of sight they’re out of mind. Then I remember randomly, feel guilty, and put it off again.

I’ve tried reminders, calendars, notes but nothing really sticks long-term. It’s especially frustrating because I do want to maintain these relationships, it's like my brain just doesn’t cooperate.

Recently I've found a mobile app that helps (after rummaging through the useless, overwhelming ones) but I’m curious does anyone else struggle with this? Have you found anything that actually helps, or is this just one of those ADHD things you learn to live with?

Edit: For everyone asking the app is called Kinly Connect

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[–] 7 points 10 months ago

Hey, in advance, I don't have adhd but my significant other and a very close friend have, so I just want to give my 2 cents from the other side.

Don't feel embarrassed or guilty if you didn't message for some period, it's not like you're doing it on purpose. Don't hesitate to speak out this topic and try to explain that's nothing personal, some might get it some not but it makes contacting them a lot easier.

Some personal advice: I know it's hard to track but try to contact them when you have different moods. Its hard to be polite, understanding and not annoyed if your friend is only contacting you when he/she feels miserable.

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