Yea I don't think ACoTaR is romance in that way, but if you're really willing to push your boundaries of predicability and comfort you might like the Bone Island series. Personally I hated how it made me feel, but it definitely made me feel something, especially the second book. My initial thought was jfc the author needs to seek therapy. Do you have any love/smut that you do like? I love love, but haven't enjoyed any romance books that come from the pastel covered romance section of the bookstore which is why most of my books lean fantasy romance.
[Edit] You might also like a study in drowning. The book has you questioning the reliability of the narrator in a fairly interesting way and I enjoyed the light romance.