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Can we make putting pronouns in display names mandatory for this instance? Request (anarchist.nexus)
submitted 1 year ago by to c/bloc@anarchist.nexus
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[–] 1 point 10 months ago (1 child)

don't ask why I'm on this 20 day post, but this is a terrible idea. When I was an egg still discovering my gender, I hated feeling forced to give pronouns because I just wasn't sure what they were. It did not make me feel safer to be compelled to, quite the opposite. I enjoyed when it was optional or encouraged, but hated when it was mandatory.

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  • [–] 1 point 10 months ago

    +1

    Pronoun disclosure should always be voluntary, the coercive pronoun circles in leftist spaces I experienced as a trans person struggling with my gender were awful experiences - and ironically I was usually the only trans person in the room. Their trans-affirming practice was torturing the only trans person there.

    Please don't pressure people to identify their gender or pronouns, it's not affirming for many of us and only makes us feel worse.

    Do create a culture and context that makes it easy for voluntary disclosure, and be receptive to people who rely on that disclose for their gender to be seen and respected.

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