I have tried water based, silicone based, oil based, coconut oil, a few other vegetable oils.

I feel like water based provides the best lubrication but dries up faster so you need to redo it quite often. Silicone seems to last the longest but does not provide as smooth of a feeling as water based, and cannot be used with silicone toys (😢)

Oil based seems to be a good middle ground as it lasts longer than water and lubricates well enough, but I still feel like it needs relubrication somewhat often, abd of course oil and silicone stains cloths 😔

Maybe I am missing some big secret and there is a better option out there? Or maybe anal will forever be more work than vaginal sex 🥲

Edit:

The winner of a quick and easy solution that did not involve trying new lubs!

🥳Put some up your bum!🥳

So just injecting a small amount of oil into my anus (there are "anal/vaginal applicators" which are basically round tip syringes) made a huge difference!

Thank you for the people that suggested it!