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Divorcees of Lemmy, why did your marriage end? (sopuli.xyz)
submitted 1 year ago by to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml
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I wonder what causes people who once thought they’d spend their life together to not want to do that anymore.

Has your partner changed? Or did they not change when you expected them to? Have you changed?

Have you not noticed each others’ flaws when love was young and the pink glasses still worked and only discovered them later?

And what can your experience teach us about our own relationships?

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[–] 13 points 1 year ago (4 children)

Completely incompatibility between views of the world. It can sound a civilised realisation, but the process to discover that was very messy with lots of frustration that started to compromise the mutual admiration and respect along few years.

Today I only wish good things to my ex-wife and I truly don't hold any bad feeling, but equally I don't want to see her ever again in my life.

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  • [–] [S] 4 points 1 year ago (3 children)

    That sounds like something that would be apparent from the get-go, no?

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  • [–] 4 points 1 year ago* (1 child)

    Sounds like the maga movement got her, like it has already destroyed so many friendships and torn families apart.

    I lost a few friends over politics but the one that surprised me the most was my best friend of over 35 years. 2 years ago it started, then he didn't speak to me for a whole year then the night Trump won, I just messaged him our friendship is done.

    I considered him my brother, we talked at least twice a week, and honestly he was more liberal than even I was, but sometime during COVID the manosphere got him. And the friend I knew was no more.

    Now I really don't have a social circle of male friends , just spend my time with my wife and daughter

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  • [–] 1 point 1 year ago

    Although very plausible when talking about MAGA, it was not our political opinions that raised the issues. I value to travel and have different experiences over house, car, fancy clothes. I am also very concerned about the future and I prefer to be sometimes bored at home and save money than do things that I don't see as important. She has the exactly opposite opinion and we could not compromise. The things got worse when I started to wish to move abroad for a while and she didn't buy also didn't say no.

    Don't get me wrong: I have my good share of things to blame, specially by being inflexible with my opinions.

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