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Anon asks out a girl (sh.itjust.works)
submitted 11 months ago by to c/greentext@sh.itjust.works
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[–] 62 points 11 months ago (16 children)

Nah but for real if some random stranger at a bar overheard me saying I'm single and then came up to me and my friends like that I would be a little creeped out too.

I wouldn't be mean about it, but I definitely wouldn't say yes.

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  • [–] 14 points 11 months ago (12 children)

    This is definitely one of those 'creepy if ugly' moments. If he was a handsome guy, it would be romantic and has almost definitely happened in a million Hallmark movies.

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  • [–] 6 points 11 months ago* (1 child)

    Handsome/Ugly is in the eye of the person, remember. Just because one person found you not attractive, doesn't mean they all do.

    Fuck Hallmark movies, Don't make me vomit

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  • [–] 12 points 11 months ago (5 children)

    Listening in on conversations is creepy, no matter how good-looking a person is.

    And that stuff happens in movies doesn't mean it isn't creepy in real-life.

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  • [–] 3 points 11 months ago (4 children)

    Not really. If you were discussing with somebody about some terminal illness you were raising money for and somebody approached and said: "Sorry, but I overheard what you said and I'd love to donate, if that's okay" that would not be creepy in the slightest.

    There is a difference between 'overhearing' and 'purposefully spying'

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  • [–] 1 point 11 months ago (3 children)

    Well, OP wasn't donating money, was he?

    The scenario you brought up would be creepy too, but people tend to value money over the slight discomfort of creepiness.

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  • [–] 1 point 11 months ago (2 children)

    In what world is it creepy to overhear somebody saying something in a public place? Have you ever been in a social situation before?

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  • [–] 1 point 11 months ago (1 child)

    In what world is it not creepy to butt into some strangers' personal conversation after overhearing details that were clearly not addressed to you?

    Have you ever been in a social situation before?

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  • [–] 3 points 11 months ago

    There is context and nuance to everything. If you think this situation is ALWAYS creepy then I'm afraid you are objectively incorrect.

    Children walk up to each other on a playground and butt in and make friends happily. Why do you want us all to be boring robots that never interface?

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  • [–] -2 points 11 months ago* (last edited 11 months ago)

    It's not so much creepy if ugly, so much as creepy if not confident.

    And the way to become confident in something is to do it a bunch of times.

    Lesson being, it's okay if someone thinks you're creepy. You're just in the process of developing a new skill.

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  • [–] 1 point 11 months ago

    For sure and that's alright. But at the same time pubs are called that because they are a public space, hence you usually don't expect actual privacy and it's what leads to moments of joy when things randomly fall into place. Could be creepy, could be magical. Anon gave it a try, failed his landing (asking a girl out was a bit much, he could have just offered a drink and joined in on the convo), but he shouldn't feel so bad about it.
    It sucks that he doesn't have mates he can laugh about it with though. That's the real tragedy to me.

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