I have in fact not met any asshole cats, the worst i've experienced is cats outdoors who scurry away when approached.
If a cat is "an asshole" then something is probably wrong, maybe it has an injury/disease that no one realizes because cats instinctively hide that, or it's being mistreated somehow without people realizing it.
All the cats i've gotten close to have been lovely, not necessarily actively cuddly at all times but if they don't want snuggles it will be quite obvious and then i just leave them alone and that's that.