Yeah I guess its for non-computer loads indeed:/
The wake on lan is a good idea, but I have a feeling it may not work well over wifi (yeah Im using wifi for internet💀), but I could use a wifi extender with ethernet output.
Either way, for powering on I saw that asrock (and many other motherboards) has an option to turn on the pc after ac outage so I might use it
For turning off I'll have it periodically ping my isp's dns or something and if theres no connection for some time it'll shut down or at least go into sleep mode.
(I'll include my build specs in the post)