I know the plural of anecdote isn’t data but my ex wife asked me to go get her some stuff from the cafeteria and asked the nurses to have the doctor come back to circumcise our son while I was gone, after we agreed not to, and reaffirmed that we didn’t want to when the doctor first came in. Maybe I should have thought something was up when she asked me to go to the cafeteria half an hour later but it never even crossed my mind. I came back upstairs to the room and there he was, and you can’t undo it. It fucked with me so bad and a big part of it is as the father you’re really not able to be mad about anything in that environment right after your wife gives birth. He’s healthy so I guess it isn’t a huge deal, my second son isn’t circumcised. I’m not saying it had to be my way or the highway but she never even displayed a significant preference when we talked about it. Just said, yeah that’s fine, we won’t circumcise him. Then just did it behind my back. Really fucks with you and yeah it’s not a mother/father problem, it’s a society and individual problem but I’ll go off. I’m not sure how often you’ve had your debates with people but I’ve worked with several women that have said they prefer circumcised penises so they got their son(s) customized.