GrapheneOS is open source, just because you disagree with who runs it doesn't mean the code itself is bad. Its an extremely popular project now & there are a lot of eyes on it.
It has long since evolved beyond something Daniel can simply destroy as a whim & any attempt to sabotage it would be met with a roaring backlash & warnings from pretty much everyone in the privacy & security space.
I think you're good to keep on using GrapheneOS, there simply exists no better option. Though if you are set on switching I guess CalyxOS (if they remain in operation) or BraxOS would be the best alternatives.
