I’m a 34 year old married guy in Oregon navigating a long term dead bedroom and hoping to find someone here who is looking for the same kind of connection. I am not interested in OnlyFans, or clicking links.

6’0, around 200 lbs. Chubby but active. Hitting the gym daily. I spend as much time outdoors as possible. Hiking, fishing, swimming, road trips, waterfalls, forests, quiet lakes. A perfect day for me is finding a rushing waterfall, sitting down with a good book, and just existing in that moment. Or taking a long hike into the woods and being one with natureee or backpacking .

I love reading and I write erotica when I have time. I like reading fan fiction and pretty much any genre of book if it’s engaging. I enjoy deep conversations, curiosity, imagination, and people who can talk about anything from books to life to fantasies. Mental attraction is huge for me. If I connect with your mind, the physical chemistry follows naturally. That being said I do have preferences as do most people.

Someone who can hold a conversation and actually wants to build a connection. Please don’t open with “hey” or one word replies. Effort matters. Personality matters. Curiosity matters. I want that spark that comes from getting to know someone and feeling excited to talk to them every day.

If you’re also looking for something meaningful, discreet, and built on real conversation and chemistry, send a message and tell me about yourself. Effort gets effort back.

40 years old, Single, Non-European, INTP-T, FOSS contributor/enthusiast, neurodivergent, vegan, childfree, asocial, funny, caffeinated, teetotaler, non-smoker seeking someone for life :P. Please have some time, if you wish to co-spend time of my life :P.

I'm not on/into Instagram/Tiktok/Facebook/... et al.

I prefer communicating in XMPP/SimpleX/Signal/Matrix/...

Hello , im a 22 year old girl from France, new around there after reddit got my ass. I miss talking to new peoples, need to practice my english.

I work in childcare, love being a movie nerd, playing videogames, reading books, hiking etc feel free to message me im all down

Edit [April 15 2026]: Just a note to anyone passing through that so long as this post is up, the invitation is open!

So I have the week off, and I've been scrolling Lemmy and having all this loneliness epidemic themed stuff jumping out at me today. Kept thinking "man, I should invite people to my local haunt, even if we just grunted on our phones or something."Then I saw this community mentioned in a thread about OSS dating apps. So screw it, let's add a post here.

36 M, recently separated, seeking lemmy users who want to chat with a lemmy user IRL in Ottawa, ON. I like movies, pinball even though I suck at it, interested in (if not super knowledgeable about) local history, love live music (rock, punk, psych, jazz, funk, etc.), weird life stories, and what if contemplations (ask me about my gradual tiki night idea). I also make shitty collage type things recently.

You? You're a lemmy user! You want to leave the house mostly so you can say you did it! Maybe the things above are interesting to you! Maybe you don't actually give a shit! Who knows - all are welcome! Bonus points if, like me, you are not a lemming but a sh.it.head.

I'd want to meet up at my super-hip local haunt in the west end. Looking at this from a mostly platonic perspective, but hey, who knows?

Idk what it is lately I’ve been feeling super horny! If anyone wants to have some fun with a guy like me let me know!