Yeah things change. Mostly children changes your entire life and things get harder and more stressful. For me this stuff wasnt the deal breaker, I did learn to live with it and many other inconveniences. After a while those things pile up and then they do other things that ends up being the final issue. For me it was refusing to pay her share of the mortgage and spending got out of control. We go into debt and then forclose on the house leading to bankruptcy to be filed. Last chance to make things right we try once more and didnt last 2 months before same stuff happened. Oh and she went out of her way to go purchase a new puppy while i had zero knowledge of this. That was my moment. All of this was over the course of 2 years as well so plenty of time to reflect and try things to resolve everything but nope nothing worked.