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[–] [S] 11 points 1 month ago (2 children)

Very good excerpt! I'll say I want to be gentle with men in these situations for my own safety as well.... don't want to be antagonistic....I agree with you though!

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  • [–] 10 points 1 month ago

    As a dude I feel if I wanted to just be nice to you when I sat down if next to you, I'd have said 'hey how are you?" Waited for your reply and been like "that's nice." And just got lost in my phone.

    Mentally challenged or not "I haven't seen you before..." just doesn't sound casual to me as a dude. It sounds like a slick "Hey baby, you look good." But with make up on it.

    Agreed do what makes you feel safe, but that is kind of you to even consider he might not be all Mentally correct.

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  • [–] 6 points 1 month ago

    Oh absolutely! Gotta do what makes you feel most safe in a situation and fawning (being nice until you can get away) is a valid way to deal with them. But don't worry about hurting their feelings either way.

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