I personally dislike trying to lump so many different scenarios into one catch all term anyway.

That's fine. I don't want to prescribe language for you to use. I find the term very useful myself.

But to your other point, I'm truly remaining strong on holding the word. I remember when "queer" was a slur and when "gay" was an insult. Both have been solidly reclaimed. I don't think "neurodivergent' has entered that level yet, and I hope to help avoid that by keeping it normalized.