Personally, I stay away from the womens stuff community because it is so incredibly stupid to constantly whine about people coming in and commenting when you're making a place that literally broadcasts your posts and comments in a way that invites others to come and comment. It's no different than having a conversation on a busy street using bullhorns and then complaining about people joining in.

When some form of the fediverse can properly do closed communities with a whitelist, then I'll happily head there.