Then I'm happy to provide some advice :) (More info helps with the anxiety. I speak from experience 🙋🏻‍♀️)

Yup, exercise is about discipline. To see results, you have to show up for yourself, because it's you who will benefit from you pushing yourself to do it even on the days you'd rather be on the couch.

I've not heard of Caliber, but keep trying different apps to see which one works best. You can also do body weights, if it starts to cost too much to get equipment. You can also use household things, too! When I first moved to Australia from Vancouver, what did I have? A 5kg bag of rice. I had a friend who squatted with a house plant. Use house things to your advantage!

I would record your sets and reps (8 dumbbell curls using 8kg weights, repeat 3 times; 10 kettle bell squats using 2kg weight, repeat 3 times; etc.) or download an app. I use an app called FitNotes. It's no frills, no ads, no permissions, just basic workout tracking.

You start with, what you're comfortable with, and move up in weights and reps. It is so satisfying to see the progress. Remember - progress is progress no matter how slow and small. If you slide back, it's normal. You'll have good days and bad days. You get sick, you slide back a bit, but your body has muscle memory and it'll bounce back.

Re gym: I've also got a very flexible part time job as well, so I go around 11AM-12PM. There seems to be a bit of a lull around then and just before lunch, but find a gym that is close so you've no excuses.

I think the women-tax thing for gyms is that many women seem to tend to like to do classes rather than be in the gym (I used to do lots of classes for two years, and 95% of the customers were women).. So the fee will often include all of the classes. They may also have lockers, showers, sauna, hot tub, plunge pools, etc. Research what you want and what you need.

Also, not sure where you live, but in certain parts of the world, there's something called a Class Pass. It's a pass that gets you whatever classes you want across the city with whatever gym/studio is signed up. You pay for credits and you can try different classes (pilates, boxing, kickboxing, cycle, crossfit, F45, etc.). It's not cheap cheap, but it'd be something to at least explore what you like if the standard gym isn't your thing. Might be worth looking in to!