Your position is valid. My question is: is your situation the norm?

My wife drinks a coffee a day most days, but not every day. I'd say she just enjoys the coffee, because she'll stop for days or weeks at a time without caffeine issues.

My mom, on the other hand, is super addicted caffeine. She doesn't care for coffee, but drinks pop. And when she tries to quit because of the sugar, she switches to coffee or tea to get the caffeine so she doesn't get the anxiety and headaches.

She's tried and failed many times to kick the habit, despite it affecting her health greatly. She's addicted.

Me? I had a coffee pot in my bedroom when I was 12. I drank mountain dew by the case. Never affected me.

These days, I haven't had a significant amount of caffeine in over 20 years. But I still love coffee, so I have an espresso machine and grind my own beans etc. It's just decaf 🤷‍♂️

If I have a half caff coffee, I'll feel wired all day and won't sleep that night, and the difficulty sometimes stretches into the next night.

I think most people are addicted. They don't realize how reliant they are on it, just because they don't "feel it" doesn't mean their bodies aren't affected by it. Given time, your body will adjust.

But also, some people are more/less sensitive to caffeine naturally, so... Who knows.

It's definitely not black and white though.