My (18NB) friend's (18M) parent recently came out as trans to my friend, and he shared that with me. He says his parent, until recently known as his dad, has come out to him as binary trans and wants to be seen as a woman. My friend doesn't feel comfortable with that, though, and calls them his 'mod' (rather than mum or dad) and uses gender neutral terms for them. He has also asked me to use the same terms but I'm worried I'm not properly respecting his parent by not using she/her and the like. AITA for prioritising my friend's comfort over his parent's?

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[–] 13 points 8 months ago

YTA - Your friend is not the one who gets to decide his parent's pronouns. Whether or not "mod" is acceptable is her call, too. Your friend may still need to process this new info, but that doesn't make his pressuring you to misgender her any less transphobic.

His behavior is no different than a parent misgendering a child who comes out as trans.

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