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Ladies, why do or don't you have kids? (lemmy.dbzer0.com)
submitted 11 months ago by to c/womensstuff@piefed.blahaj.zone
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I’m really interested in people’s motivations. Whatever they are, even if just financial.

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[–] 18 points 11 months ago (2 children)

I have kids. It always sounded fun and interesting to have kids. But I had non negotiable bucket list to complete before trying. I was able to accomplish what I wanted in my career, travel to a few places, be financially stable, and find a partner that I wanted to build a family with. It took a lot of work to do all those things. I didn’t do those things so I could have kids, I did them for me. But accomplishing it all lead me to feel stable enough to care for children.

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  • [–] [S] 8 points 11 months ago (1 child)

    I’m really glad you got to do all the things you wanted :)

    What sorts of things were on your list, if you don’t mind me asking?

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  • [–] 3 points 11 months ago

    I mentioned the big things in my post, but to be more specific my list included the following: stable full time job for at least 5 years in my field of study (chemistry), emergency fund to cover at least 1 year, endometriosis surgery, at least one multi international trip with my partner, taking my parents on a trip to Europe to visit their family, beach trip in the Caribbean, experience a music festival, and a few local trips. I had also wanted to go to Japan with some friends but covid ruined those plans.

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