I’ll start,

I don’t have kids and I got my tubes tied when I was 27 so that wouldn’t happen.

I was raised like crap, and have zero maternal instinct. I chose not to reproduce because my mother should have made that choice but didn’t and I know how that turns out. I’m no more maternal than she was.

She tried to avoid kids, and managed until she was 32, which says a LOT about what she wanted (as a woman born in the 50s, raised catholic, and who went to catholic school for her whole education, including college), but my dad came home from a business trip and forced the situation (religion was involved, I feel for her) so she had my older sibling.. and they chose to have me to be a companion… that didn’t work; my sibling and I have not spoken in almost 20 years..

My sibling doesn’t know, and I don’t plan to tell them (mother died shortly before we stopped talking and was the catalyst).. they and my mother never got along.. probably for a reason on mother’s end..