I'm just a bit baffled tbh, do you reckon he was asking "what's your role" as a rhetorical question? Because there's no way he genuinely cares what she says, right?

I guess... Unless her profile said "as a man you must be the breadwinner", or gave off similar vibes to that? And that's what he was responding to, as a reply to her and not just a total bolt from the blue?

Just such a weird message 😂